Message from the Director—April 2024
Resilience Rising: Navigating Rejection with Grace and Grit
From: Dr. Miguel Baique, Director of the David T. Kearns Center for Leadership and Diversity in Arts, Sciences & Engineering
Dear Kearns Center Community,
As you navigate through your academic and professional journeys, I want to take a moment to talk about something that is inevitable and challenging to deal with – yet often not discussed – rejection.
Rejection is a universal experience that knocks on everyone's door at some point in life. Whether you're a high school student dreaming of college, a college student pursuing internships, jobs or graduate school, or a graduate student aiming for that coveted opportunity, you will encounter rejection along the way. But here's the thing about rejection: it's not the end of the road; it's a stepping stone to growth and success. I know this from experience.
Not too long ago, I found myself hesitant and ashamed to open up about moments of rejection. I was gripped by the fear of being judged and carried the weight of believing I had let not only myself down but also those who supported me. Among the most challenging instances of rejection was my denial of entry into a doctoral program I ardently desired to be part of. I had poured my heart into ensuring my grades were competitive, my letters of recommendation robust, my application flawless, and my readiness to tackle any interview question unquestionable. Yet, it wasn't sufficient. The rejection stung... deeply. I shed tears, engaged in self-reflection (both solo and with others), and eventually came to realize that being turned away didn't diminish my capabilities nor did it signal the end of my academic career. There's always another chance—another application cycle, other programs, and endless opportunities to learn. Several days following the rejection, faculty and staff at the institution encouraged me to explore and apply for another doctoral program aligned with my interests and career aspirations. I took their advice, and a few years down the road, I earned my doctorate! I have learned to think of rejection as a tool for self-discovery and improvement. Rejection allowed me to reflect on my goals, strengths, and areas for development. It forced me to question, adapt, and persevere. Discussing rejection openly now, I came to realize that others face rejection as well. I found solace in the insights and coping mechanisms shared by my community, but what truly mattered was the love, empathy, and support they extended to me. The care, understanding, and assistance I received from my community parallel the dedication and approach of Kearns Center staff towards students.
I’ve witnessed the emotional support Kearns Center staff provide to students grappling with rejection, offering a safe space where they can voice their feelings and receive empathy. Staff equip students with coping strategies and resilience-building techniques, such as mindfulness exercises and stress management workshops, to navigate the emotional aftermath of rejection effectively. Furthermore, they facilitate opportunities for students to receive constructive feedback on their applications or academic work, fostering reflection and growth. Skill development workshops and courses offered by the Kearns Center aid students in honing their abilities, while also exploring alternative pathways and opportunities that rejection may unexpectedly unveil. Through networking events and support groups, students can connect with peers who share similar experiences, gaining insights and encouragement to persevere. Lastly, Kearns Center staff assist students in crafting long-term academic and career plans that incorporate setbacks as part of the journey, empowering them to stay resilient and focused on their aspirations despite obstacles. Although the Kearns Center prioritizes academic achievement and excellence, we recognize the holistic needs of students. Addressing experiences like rejection holds equal significance to mastering class content.
In our pursuit of success, it's essential to recognize that rejection is an inherent aspect of the journey. With that, I leave you with this — Maintaining perspective is crucial: rejection does not define your worth or potential; it's merely a temporary setback in your journey. Keep your long-term goals in focus and stay committed to the bigger picture. When faced with rejection, seek feedback and use it to fuel self-improvement, identifying areas for growth in skills, qualifications, or approach. Build resiliency and use it as your greatest asset, bouncing back stronger from setbacks and trusting in your abilities to overcome obstacles. Stay open to exploring alternative paths if one door closes, knowing that unexpected turns may lead to new opportunities. Celebrate every step forward, regardless of size, as each brings you closer to your goals. Keep striving, keep pushing forward, and never lose sight of the incredible potential that lies within you.
Remember, success isn't about avoiding rejection but about how you respond to it; embrace it as part of your journey and let it drive your determination, resilience, and growth.
Wishing you strength, resilience, and boundless success on your journey.
Dr. Miguel Baique
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